Out with the Old and In with the New
Exit the hookups.
So here is some more non-judgemental advice :) From this random expert.
Get your act together in the sexual sphere.
Now maybe you're totally alone and you don't have a partner and you haven't been with a man in an intimate way for who knows how long…
Or maybe you have five guys and some kind of nicely colored roster wheel…
But if you don’t have a stable sane relationship based on love and trust, then here are more tools to help you get there.
If you're involved in any of the situations below I can give you some advice
Still obsessing over an ex.
Obsessing over an unattainable guy, that is either taken or untaken.
Actually being with a married guy and having him cheat on his wife with you in some kind of sneaking about super naughty situation.
Pornography.
Drunken hookups with random dudes
Sober hookups with random dudes
Random dudes.
In some on again off again bullshit.
Friends with benefits that’s going to go nowhere, because this is not a romantic movie.
That guy who calls you up for a booty call now and then.
That guy that you call up for a booty call now and then.
If you are here and still reading and have read any of my previous advice, you are here because you want to become a strong stable individual who knows what she wants in life and wants to be able to have the energy and power to create an awesome life.
So stop any random dating or Tinder stuff or hook-up stuff.
This includes giving it any thought or attention, like documenting your crazy journey about how horny and lonely you are, or getting into rants or conversations about bad men or tick-tock or Facebook or Twitter or substack or whatever.
Cut it all off. Cut off the actions and the reminders and the scrolling and the movies about romance and the energy flow towards that stuff and redirect it.
Let's just cut all that stuff right out right now and throw yourself into your own life without worrying about the past and without stressing about the future.
Just being in the moment improving yourself with the little steps that you're doing day by day creating your new life
That special Guy cannot come into your life with any of the above going on.
So we are creating that space in your life for it to occur
Even if we look at just the purely physical fact that if there is some doofus guy in your bed another great guy can't get in.
There may be something to the pheromone system as well, where if you are getting some action from some hook-up, your hormones kind of change and if there's the smell of another guy around in your room, and maybe hair follicles or DNA-filled skin particles it could somehow drive another guy away.
I'm not sure of the science, but I have seen some spooky stuff happen like a good new potential partner suddenly get cold feet because an old flame slept over. And there was no real evidence of the other guy….
Another thing is that you want all the energy and desperation you can muster!
Starve it out.
Put that energy into what you really want in life!